The lack of healthy boundaries in relationships can take a toil on your emotional, mental or even physical well being. If you often struggle with feeling burnout, resentful, & feeling taken for granted & unappreciated by others, you may be lacking in healthy boundaries in your relationships.
Do you know that feeling overly responsible for the needs & emotions of others at the expense of your own well-being is also a form of self-abandonement.
Learning to draw boundaries would require you to be intentional in asking yourself, what do you really want and what do you really. Your needs matter too.
Setting boundaries is a form of self-care, and self-care is the first step towards cultivating a healthy self-love! In this post, I share 5 of my favourite Boundaries Setting HACKS for you to start taking care of yourself! I hope you give it a try & and share this to empower someone today!
With Love,
Pamela Koh
(Founder & Clinical Director of ThriveSg)
Series of Videos on Boundaries
Healing from Codependency (CD) and Emotional Dependency (ED) is possible but first one needs to recognise the symptoms to realise that it is a problem to continue to live with these symptoms. Please learn more about CD and ED from our series of reels under "Introduction to CD and ED" at cru.sg/cded first.
The reason why many continue to stay in unhealthy codependent or emotionally dependent relationships is a lack of awareness of what are the root issues and causes that drive these unhealthy behaviours in relationships. Only with awareness can we begin to heal and change.
Healing will involve going back to heal the attachment injuries and adverse experiences in childhood of shame, rejection and abandonment that have caused us to develop unhealthy attachment styles in relationships. We will also need to learn now what it means to draw boundaries in order to cultivate healthy relationships.
It is possible to learn how to begin to have self-compassion, to learn to draw boundaries, to love ourselves is possible. If you are interested to find out more about how to heal from CD and ED, check out these series of reels. Please help us share these resources to those who may find them helpful.
With Love,
Pamela Koh
(Founder & Clinical Director of ThriveSg)
Codependency (CD) and Emotional Dependency (ED) can cause a lot of distress in our relationships.
The unhealthy dynamics in these relationships may hinder us from being emotionally healthy and prevent us from cultivating a secure sense of self or a secure attachment style.
If you feel like you have issues with codependency or emotional dependency, have lots of compassion for yourself. There are good reasons why.
As a recovered codependent myself, I had experienced the negative impacts codependency, and I have also witnessed the pain of many I journeyed with, who struggled with CD & ED. I realised how important this topic is & I'm really excited to share with you what I have learnt that has been helpful in overcoming CD & ED for those of you who are desiring growth and change.
Overcoming CD & ED is totally possible! Just as you can change your attachment styles from insecure to secure, it is possible to also learn how to heal from the root causes of CD & ED, and learn skills to help you cultivate healthy & fulfilling relationships.
We hope this new series will be helpful to you & many out there!
With Love,
Pamela Koh
(Founder & Clinical Director of ThriveSg)
Anxious-Ambivalent Attachment Style
Reel 1: What is anxious attachment?
Reel 2: Pam’s personal story on anxious attachment
Reel 3: All about anxious attachment
Avoidant Attachment Style
Reel 4: What is the Avoidant Attachment style?
Reel 5: Sharing on overcoming Avoidant Attachment
Reel 6: How Avoidant Attachment makes you ...
Disorganized Attachment Style
Reel 7: What is Disorganized Attachment?
Reel 8: Overcoming relationship challenges for...
Reel 9: When in relationship with Disorganized...
Secure Attachment Style
Reel 10: Benefits & Causes - Secure Attachment Style
Reel 11: Boundaries for Secure Attachment Style
Reel 12: Hope for Healing Attachment Styles
No man is an island. We are all created and wired for social connections as human beings. This is why relationships affect our mental health and emotional well-being so much. Yet perhaps many of us don’t seem to do very well in the area of relationships.
Hurt people hurt people. If we have not healed from past hurts in relationships, it may sometimes affect our ability to trust people and build meaningful relationships. Another factor that may affect our ability to build good relationships is our attachment styles and that is being developed in our childhood.
This is one topic I'm passionate about so I really hope you will enjoy this series, and I hope our content will help you understand your attachment styles better, so you can grow in how you relate with others and enjoy your relationships even more! -Pamela Koh (Founder & Clinical Director of ThriveSg)
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There are 5 reels and these are all Christian related, explicitly Christian content by faith.
Part 1- How may your attachment style affect your relationship with God?
Part 2- Resources for changing attachment styles
Part 3- Resources for changing attachment style from the Christian faith
Part 4- God as the source of Secure Attachment
Part 5- Overcoming the victim mentality by cultivating compassion towards our limited caregivers
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Experiencing loss is a part of life. We warmly invite you to join our Founder, Pamela, on three Tuesday evenings this May for heart-to-heart chat on the topic of Grieving Well to Thrive.
Pamela shares why it is important to grieve well & not let unresolved grief impact our life negatively so that we can thrive significantly.
ThriveSg provides counselling and therapy that helps dive into the root cause of your issues instead of simply providing overused behavioural therapy (CBT) techniques that put a bandage on your wounds. The program helps heal and allows one to understand one's issues truly. I have tried different counsellors and institutions but none helped me solve or truly understood me until I met (my counsellor). I am lucky and thankful to have gone through this journey with her and ThriveSg. I have grown exponentially as a person, ...
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