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Codependency (CD) and Emotional Dependency (ED)

Codependency (CD) and Emotional Dependency (ED) can cause a lot of distress in our relationships. 

The unhealthy dynamics in these relationships may hinder us from being emotionally healthy and prevent us from cultivating a secure sense of self or a secure attachment style. 

If you feel like you have issues with codependency or emotional dependency, have lots of compassion for yourself. There are good reasons why. 

As a recovered codependent myself, I had experienced the negative impacts codependency, and I have also witnessed the pain of many I journeyed with, who struggled with CD & ED. I realised how important this topic is & I'm really excited to share with you what I have learnt that has been helpful in overcoming CD & ED for those of you who are desiring growth and change.

Overcoming CD & ED is totally possible! Just as you can change your attachment styles from insecure to secure, it is possible to also learn how to heal from the root causes of CD & ED, and learn skills to help you cultivate healthy & fulfilling relationships.

We hope this new series will be helpful to you & many out there!

With Love,
Pamela Koh
(Founder & Clinical Director of ThriveSg)

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Healing from Codependency and Emotional Dependency

Healing from Codependency (CD) and Emotional Dependency (ED) is possible but first one needs to recognise the symptoms to realise that it is a problem to continue to live with these symptoms. Please learn more about CD and ED from our series of reels under "Introduction to CD and ED" at cru.sg/cded first.

The reason why many continue to stay in unhealthy codependent or emotionally dependent relationships is a lack of awareness of what are the root issues and causes that drive these unhealthy behaviours in relationships. Only with awareness can we begin to heal and change.

Healing will involve going back to heal the attachment injuries and adverse experiences in childhood of shame, rejection and abandonment that have caused us to develop unhealthy attachment styles in relationships. We will also need to learn now what it means to draw boundaries in order to cultivate healthy relationships.

It is possible to learn how to begin to have self-compassion, to learn to draw boundaries, to love ourselves is possible. If you are interested to find out more about how to heal from CD and ED, check out these series of reels. Please help us share these resources to those who may find them helpful.

With Love,
Pamela Koh
(Founder & Clinical Director of ThriveSg)

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Attachment Series

No man is an island. We are all created and wired for social connections as human beings. This is why relationships affect our mental health and emotional well-being so much. Yet perhaps many of us don’t seem to do very well in the area of relationships. 

Hurt people hurt people. If we have not healed from past hurts in relationships, it may sometimes affect our ability to trust people and build meaningful relationships. Another factor that may affect our ability to build good relationships is our attachment styles and that is being developed in our childhood. 

This is one topic I'm passionate about so I really  hope you will enjoy this series, and I hope our content will help you understand your attachment styles better, so you can grow in how you relate with others and enjoy your relationships even more! 

With Love,
Pamela Koh
(Founder & Clinical Director of ThriveSg)

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Attachment Styles

Anxious-Ambivalent Attachment Style
Reel 1: What is anxious attachment?
Reel 2: Pam’s personal story on anxious attachment
Reel 3: All about anxious attachment

Avoidant Attachment Style
Reel 4: What is the Avoidant Attachment style?  
Reel 5:  Sharing on overcoming Avoidant Attachment
Reel 6:  How Avoidant Attachment makes you ...

Disorganized Attachment Style
Reel 7: What is Disorganized Attachment?
Reel 8:  Overcoming relationship challenges for...
Reel 9: When in relationship with Disorganized...

Secure Attachment Style
Reel 10: Benefits & Causes - Secure Attachment Style
Reel 11: Boundaries for Secure Attachment Style
Reel 12: Hope for Healing Attachment Styles

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Insights from Pamela's Christian Faith on Attachment Series

There are 5 reels and these are all Christian related, explicitly Christian content by faith.

Part 1- How may your attachment style affect your relationship with God?

Part 2- Resources for changing attachment styles

Part 3- Resources for changing attachment style from the Christian faith 

Part 4- God as the source of Secure Attachment

Part 5- Overcoming the victim mentality by cultivating compassion towards our limited caregivers

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Grieving Well Series


Experiencing loss is a part of life. Pamela Koh shares why it is important to grieve well & not let unresolved grief impact our life, and thrive significantly.

IG LIve on Grieving Well to Thrive

Trauma Series

Interview with Coach Kubo

STORIES OF THRIVERS

How Facing My Inner Demons Got Me My Dream Job

Let’s be real—most of us are stumbling through life thinking we know what we’re doing, but deep down, we’re just winging it. That was me for the longest time. I was lost, drowning in existential dread, unsure of what I was even doing with my life.

Your Story Matters - #thisismystory by Sandra Cheok

We are grateful to those who have courageously agreed to be part of our "#thisismystory" movement to help fight the mental health stigma by sharing their journeys on video! Check out these short videos /reels of some of our thrivers and be inspired by their stories of resilience! May their stories encourage you that healing & growing in resilience is possible. We can reach out for the support we need, so that we may be empowered to thrive significantly in life!

Your Story Matters - #thisismystory by Malcolm Chew

We are grateful to those who have courageously agreed to be part of our "#thisismystory" movement to help fight the mental health stigma by sharing their journeys on video! Check out these short videos /reels of some of our thrivers and be inspired by their stories of resilience! May their stories encourage you that healing & growing in resilience is possible. We can reach out for the support we need, so that we may be empowered to thrive significantly in life!

Sorting Burdens with the Help of ThriveSg

by Lim (@mentholhalle), 20, with her artworks inspired by her healing journey. Counselling helped me to process all the difficult emotions I felt as a child because of my grandmother’s dominant role in my life. I also learnt how to connect with my “inner child,” and soothe that part of me that was once very hurt. Reassuring the inner child helped me to realise I am capable of handling and moving on from such conflict. Over time, my “inner child” became less susceptible to such conflicts, and it also helped me to be less triggered emotionally whenever future conflict would occur.

Obedience and our Mental Health

As Christians, the topic of mental health is made more complex because of our susceptibility to form biases and assumptions; for instance, that those struggling are “living in defeat” and not walking close with God, or that they can easily recover from their struggles if they “just believe”. The change begins in us...

Learning To Feel Again

I sought counseling in March that year. It was then I began to heal. I learnt to get in touch with my emotions, feel, and listen to my inner child so that healing could take place.

How I learnt to Grieve & Heal from it

Thriver, Daisy*, sought counselling when she lost her beloved friend, Buttercup* who died by suicide. In this interview, she shares her counselling journey.

A Girl’s Letter To Her Former Self

Now, you have reached the point where living a life without Christ as President is wholly unthinkable. That you truly know that you are complete in Christ and therefore, you can trust Him in all outcomes of your life.

Road to recovery from anxiety

You don't have to be ashamed of your anxiety any longer. Cru is here to help you recover and live a life free from the chains of anxiety. Contact us today!

Newfound Confidence in the Face of Anxiety

“...we were never made to journey through this life by ourselves. In fact, the strongest people are the ones who know when to admit they need help.”

Japanese Girl's Suicide Led One Woman to Start Counselling Arm for Tertiary Students

Struggling with suicidal thoughts and don't know who to talk to? Discover how our volunteers help others through counseling at Cru Singapore!

The girl who found purpose in her pain

"Having been in touch with my own pain helped me to understand people's pain better and to have compassion and empathy for others." Daddy’s girl.

Reviews & Testimonials

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