Attachment Series

No man is an island. We are all created and wired for social connections as human beings. This is why relationships affect our mental health and emotional well-being so much. Yet perhaps many of us don’t seem to do very well in the area of relationships.

Hurt people hurt people. If we have not healed from past hurts in relationships, it may sometimes affect our ability to trust people and build meaningful relationships. Another factor that may affect our ability to build good relationships is our attachment styles and that is being developed in our childhood. 

This is one topic I'm passionate about so I really  hope you will enjoy this series, and I hope our content will help you understand your attachment styles better, so you can grow in how you relate with others and enjoy your relationships even more! -Pamela Koh (Founder & Clinical Director of ThriveSg)

What is Attachment Theory?


Check out this reel edited from a webinar on "Healing from childhood traumas", where our founder, Pamela Koh, explains how our attachment with our primary caregivers (usually the parents, especially the mother) as a child affects our brain development as children. 

Attachment starts the moment you are born and  your experience of attachment as a child may impact your capacity to regulate emotions and also your ability to relate and attach to others in our significant relationships and friendships in your adulthood. 

The good news is we can still heal and repair the attachment deficits we experienced. Continue to stay tuned to our Attachment series to find out how! 

How our caregivers shape our attachment styles?

(Edited by Anya Chua)

Pamela explains how our caregivers affect our attachment styles, and also understand why as children, we tend to be more affected by negative experiences we go through than when we are adults.

Learn More about Anxious-Ambivalent Attachment Style

Reel 1: What is anxious attachment?

How do you know if you have an anxious attachment style? Our founder, Pamela Koh, explains some traits of this style. Meanwhile, do check out our recent posts on Attachment Theory & Anxious Attachment Style at @thrivesg.tribe to learn more.

Reel 2: Pam’s personal story on anxious attachment

Check out this reel as our founder, Pamela Koh, vulnerably shares her personal story with anxious attachment and how she grew from that negative experience and developed a secure attachment style. 

We hope that her story gives you hope that change and growth is possible! Will you help us share this story to encourage others too.

Reel 3: All about anxious attachment

Check out this reel as our founder, Pamela Koh explains one of the vulnerabilities of the anxious attachment style is that it could lead to codependent relationships or attachment to unsafe people.

From 1:00, she also briefly explains the root causes of this attachment style & what is needed to in taking the first steps towards healing and overcoming anxious attachment.

For more resources on attachment, you can check out @thrivesg.tribe

Avoidant Attachment Series

Reel 4: What is the Avoidant Aattachment style?


How do you know if you have an avoidant attachment style? Find out more from our founder, Pamela Koh, as she shares some of the key traits of this style. Stay tuned as we will release more reels on this topic in the coming weeks! 

Meanwhile, do check out our recent posts at @thrivesg.tribe on Avoidant Attachment to learn more.

Reel 5: Sharing on overcoming Avoidant Attachment

Check out this reel and be encouraged by how someone our founder, Pamela,  journeyed with overcame her avoidant attachment style & develop healthy ways of connecting in relationships. 

We are so grateful for her generosity in sharing her story. May it give you hope that it is possible to change your attachment style! Please do share this inspiring story to encourage someone you know.

Reel 6: How Avoidant Attachment makes you ...


Do you tend to be conflict avoidant in relationships? When there is a conflict, you tend to avoid by using unhelpful defences like shutting down or ghosting those you have confict with? These defences may actually hurt those who care about you & do not help the relationship grow. 

Check out this reel as our founder, Pamela explains briefly how avoidant attachment may make you conflict avoidant, and what you can do to deal with conflicts in healthier ways.

Attaching to healthy people with secure attachment styles can help change our insecure attachment styles. 

For those of you who are Christians out there, if God is a safe, secure attachment figure to you, your attachment to Him may also be a resource to help you develop secure attachment. 

Disorganized Attachment Series

Reel 7: What is Disorganized Attachment?


@thrivesg.tribe: How do you know if you have a disorganized attachment style? Find out more from our founder, Pamela Koh, as she shares some of the key traits of this style & what may be some possible causes of this style. 

Stay tuned as we will release more reels on Disorganized Attachment in the coming weeks. 

Meanwhile, do check out the posts & reels of our Attachment series to learn more about your attachment style & how it may be affecting your relationships with others.

Will you also help us share our resources out there to those who may find them helpful. :)

Reel 8: Overcoming relationship challenges for...


(Edited by Anya Chua)

What could be some challenges that those with Disorganized Attachment may face?  

Check out this reel as our founder, Pamela explains what these challenges may be & some ways you can consider to help you navigate these challenges.

Awareness empowers us for change. It is possible to heal from the traumas that have shaped your disorganized attachment style. Healing is possible. Growth & change us possible.

Reel 9: When in relationship with Disorganized...


(Edited by Anya Chua)

Are you feeling overwhelmed being in relationship with someone Disorganized Attachment? 

Check out this reel as our founder, Pamela helps you understand some challenges in the relationship & consider some ways to help you better manage.

Will you also help us share our resources out there to those who may find them helpful. :)

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Mental Health Resources For You

Experiencing loss is a part of life. We warmly invite you to join our Founder, Pamela, on three Tuesday evenings this May for heart-to-heart chat on the topic of Grieving Well to Thrive.

Pamela shares why it is important to grieve well & not let unresolved grief impact our life negatively so that we can thrive significantly.

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ThriveSg champions a help-seeking culture through advocating a growth perspective towards counselling, to overcome the stigma of mental illnesses and emotional challenges.

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