
Thank you for choosing to engage with the Desire series.
We hope this guide will help you discuss the material with a friend. Your conversation will be more rewarding if you take some time to read through the article and this guide before you meet.
Getting Started
- If you’re comfortable doing so, invite God to be part of your conversation.
- Discuss what stood out to you from the article.
- Talk about anything from the article that you have questions about or don’t understand.
Key Points From Article #3
- When you watch porn there’s no risk of sexually transmitted diseases, unwanted pregnancy or even a broken heart. So it seems like a safe alternative to the safest sex.
Discuss:
- Sexual acts like pornography, masturbation and even sexting — are they healthy and safe expressions of our sexuality?
- Instead of connection, pornography drives isolation. Instead of a sacrificial love, it rewards aggression and violence. It paints an unrealistic picture of sex in our minds that leads to unfair expectations when we’re in actual relationships.
Discuss:
- How has pornography affected your view of relationships and sex?
In what way can you identify with Jessica’s story?
- Some women feel it’s their right to masturbate. If God isn’t giving them a proper source of sexual satisfaction, they will take care of it themselves.
Discuss:
- Do you trust that God’s intentions for you are completely good? Why or why not?
Next Steps — Read through these together.
- If you struggle with pornography, sexting or masturbation, find a quiet place and time to think about what the underlying issues are that you need to address.
- If you need help resisting the temptation to look at pornography, check out some accountability software: Covenant Eyes or Accountable2You
- Mark a date on your calendar to discuss another article from the Desire series.