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How Your Personality Connects You With God

Since I became a Christian, I've struggled to consistently connect with God. Like me, you may also tend to think that most other Christians are experiencing God more deeply than you are.

Is there something wrong with me because I’m not experiencing Him like others? Am I missing something?

I’m not alone in this.

The Bible has plenty of examples of those who envy or resent other people’s relationships. Cain envied Abel’s relationship with God. Jacob and Esau fought over their father Isaac’s blessing. Jesus’ disciples argued about who would be the greatest in the kingdom of God. There’s a desire for intimacy and relationship that is present in each of these stories.

Is it possible that we don’t experience God like everyone else because God didn’t intend us to? Could it be that we’re missing something about what worship is?

We all know that worship isn’t just listening to songs in church. Worship isn’t an experience we have once a week; it’s a part of everyday life. Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 10:31 (New International Version), “So whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.”

Worship is an inward attitude of the heart. It’s not supposed to feel functional; it’s intimate. It’s recognizing who God is, who He’s created us to be and what our relationship to Him is.

We don’t need a one-size-fits-all relationship with God.

God uniquely formed each of us. I like folk music; you may like rap. I like being around small groups of people; you may be energized by large gatherings. If we each experience life differently, won’t those differences influence how we worship God?

In Gary Thomas’ book “Sacred Pathways,” he describes nine ways we can interact with God. You may find yourself relating to more than one. Which pathways do you most identify with?

Hover over the photos to read about different pathways and see practical ways you can connect with God.

    • Enthusiasts

      Worship and celebration are words that appeal to you. You desire inspiration and feel close to God when you are inspired.

      • Gather friends or family for a meal and celebrate what God has done in your life.
      • Write notes of encouragement to those around you, affirming how you’ve seen God at work in or through them.
      • Discover why you were created to celebrate.
    • Traditionalists

      You are drawn to God through ritual, symbol and sacrifice. You need something tangible to do to draw close to God.

    • Caregivers

      You love God best by loving people. You feel close to God when serving the poor, hosting people in your home or helping with a church event.

Now that you’ve learned how God has wired you, how can you explore that in your relationship with Him?

Rachel Ferchak

a Pittsburgh native, serves as editor-in-chief of digital and print communications for Cru. A 2012 graduate of Ohio University, she received a journalism degree, which so far has taken her around the U.S., to Morocco, Russia, Spain and Moldova. Contact Rachel at

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