“How are you?” a dear friend asked cheerfully as we waited for church to begin.
The truth? I was not doing well.
I was frustrated with my job, some health issues had flared over the past week, and I was tired. I had walked in to the auditorium close to tears.
But there was only a split-second to decide how I would respond.
I could feign strength and answer with a socially acceptable, “I’m fine,” like I normally did. Or I could be honest and risk becoming emotional. The reward would come in feeling known by my friend, and having someone to lean on as I struggled.
I don’t mind helping others through hard situations, but letting them help me is hard. If I let others in, I risk feeling like a burden or even being hurt or disappointed by them.
If you’re like me, here are three things to consider as you have opportunities to be open with those around you.
God is reminding me that I was created to do life with other people – with His body.
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor,” it says in Ecclesiastes 4:9-10. “If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.”
God created us to walk alongside each other, to lean on each other, to cry with each other, to rejoice with each other, to help each other up and keep moving forward.
I like doing that for other people…and I need to let other people do it for me.
After a plane crash took Julie Blom’s husband and two of her children, friends had to learn how to help her heal.
I went through a period where I was struggling with feelings of anxiety and guilt about my performance as a Christian. Then God showed me I was looking at myself and my flaws in the wrong way.
It can be hard to know how to be a friend when you’re needed most. There are practical ways to show your love and care to a friend who is grieving.
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