So, you’ve made this commitment to God to go, do, say and give as He leads. What happens if what God calls you to do isn’t what your parents imagined or expected?
When the Bible clearly teaches that we are to both honor and obey our parents, it’s hard to justify going against their wishes. Both the fifth commandment (Exodus 20:12) and Ephesians 6:1-3, as well as other passages, admonish children to revere and obey their fathers and mothers.
Certainly not all family situations are healthy, and there are times we have to make choices that are independent of parents who are unable to be stable, helpful influences in our lives. If you were blessed with one or more parent who provided love and shelter and food and opportunity for years, they probably are thinking about what is best for you. Your parents are one of God’s most precious gifts to you. Their wishes should be among the pieces of information you consider in discerning God’s leading.
We are always to be committed to honoring our parents, but there comes a time when we are personally accountable before God.
College is a transitional time. In most cases parents are still providing financial support, and yet there is a growing sense you are becoming independent. It’s often difficult to point to an exact day that you move from under your parents’ direct responsibility to being independent before the Lord. Living in this transitional time, therefore, requires wisdom and prayer, and both courage and humility.
As you pray and discern what God is calling you to do, go, give or say, finding ways to honor your parents in potentially hard conversations is important. Not just as obedience to God, but as a witness to them of your growing maturity and faith.
Here are a few ideas to consider:
Going, giving, doing, saying… all of that can add up to a way of being. Or it can feel like our relationship with God is dependent on being good at those things. But 1John 5:11-13 tells another story.
Does God really speak to us today in an intelligible voice? During my first ten days after moving to college, my roommate and I conceived a brilliant plan that involved us getting drunk every night. On the tenth night of this escapade, I went up to my room and sat on my bed.
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