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Setting the Stage

Alyssa Stegmaier

You just moved into your new home and you’re excited to begin your life there. The first thing you’ll get to deal with in your new place is your roommate.

You will be spending a decent amount of time with them this year, so it’s important to set the stage for how the two of you are going to live together. The best way to do this is to sit down with your roommate and ask questions about how they live and how they would like to live with you.

Here are just a few to help you get started:

  • At what time would you like things to be quiet in the evenings? Mornings?
  • Is it okay if members of the opposite sex come over?
  • What time should guests be allowed in our room and how far in advance would you like to know that I will be having a guest?
  • Do you mind having things lying around or do you like everything to be picked up?
  • How do you feel about borrowing each other’s things? Do we need to ask? Are there certain things that shouldn’t be borrowed?
  • If you’re upset, do you want me to ask you about it or leave you alone?
  • Do you like to hang out by yourself or with a lot of people?

Once you cover these topics, you’ll be in a good position to start the year.

Most importantly, remember that you and your roommate are different people created for different roles in God’s plan for the world. In light of this, conflict is bound to happen. It’s how you handle conflict that can really make the difference.

Hopefully, setting the stage will be able to help provide a safe space for open communication.

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