What Your Resolutions Really Need
We're called to change. Why is it so hard?
The month of January brings a sense of opportunity to change some things for the next year.
Change is something we need to do as Christians.
We read in 2 Corinthians 5:17 that when we come to Christ, we are a new creation and that the old has gone and the new has come. In Philippians 3:13 Paul says, ". . . forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead."
So, change should be a way of life for us as committed believers. It certainly was for the apostle Peter.
He started as a profane fisherman who was so sinful that he told Jesus to depart from him (Luke 5:8).
He seemed to have a natural tendency to jump to the wrong conclusions and say the wrong things. Yet, in the Book of Acts we see him as a profound spokesperson for the message of Christ and a courageous leader of the church.
But as much as our lives may need to grow and change, we don't always find that easy to do.
For one thing, we tend to become used to things the way they are – even comfortable with them. So, we usually have to take control of giving up the old. Depending on how addicting the old is, that can be a challenge.
I watched my dad go through the process of giving up alcohol when he came to Christ. It was very difficult.
Change often requires grieving the loss of what is ending. For example, when my wife, Judy, and I left San Bernardino, Calif., to move to Orlando, Fla., we grieved the loss of so many friendships.
Then we had to find a new home and church in Orlando. The kids had to start in a new school and join new soccer teams. Figuring out what the "new" will be and how to function in it is always a part of change.
In my dad's case, he had to find new ways to cope with anxiety. He needed to learn how to let the Holy Spirit give him peace instead of using alcohol to medicate the pain.
And then there is the need to make the "new" into a habit – a way of life. Judy and I became comfortable in our new setting and made many new friends. Orlando became home.
I give you this perspective because all too often we write down some New Year's resolutions and assume they will magically come true. Instead, we need to view change as involving prayer, a process, implementation and hard work.
Otherwise, a New Year's resolution is really just an idle dream.